For Shame, Jennifer Aniston!

I'm not going to lie. When I saw the headline that John Mayer and Jennifer Aniston were back together, I may have gotten a bit upset/annoyed.

I know. Why do I care? Although DYFU is firmly Team Aniston, the decisions of celebrities I usually harp on are the one's which include too tight bandage dresses, drugged out trainwrecks and faux lesbianism.

The rub is, I, like Jennifer Aniston, have slightly horrible taste in men. Yes, they have all had a lot of good qualities, but ultimately they were completely wrong for me. Jennifer Aniston seems to have the same problem choosing her men. Example: John Mayer is ridiculously talented, good looking and funny. However, he is also a toxic man child/peter pan whose ability to respect other's seems extremely limited. So, although JM has a lot of things going for him, he is always going to be the wrong guy for JA because he has the emotional maturity of a 15 year old highschool sophomore. Not exactly the ideal mate for a 40 year old woman who wants an emotionally stable relationship.

It took me awhile to stop blaming the guys I've dated for the flaws/quirks/issues that have ultimately meant they were incompatible with me. The thing I finally realized was, a lot of the blame actually falls on me. It's not like I was complely passive in the decision to date these men who I was never going to end up with. I wasn't. I actively pursued some of them, or refused to get off the on/off relationship merry-go-round with other's. The point is, I put myself in a position where it was more likely than not that I was going to get hurt- I was trying to shove a square peg into a round hole. What exactly did I expect to happen? I guess the same goes for Jennifer Aniston.

My point is, we have to break ourselves from the habit of dating these men who we intiallty find super interesting/fun/dynamic....when we know deep down their relationship light is on red...indefintely. I was never going to be able to fix the things which were going to inhibit the so called happily ever after, so why did I even bother? That also doesn't mean you have to settle...but continually dating people where there are glaring red flags doesn't seem to make to much sense either.