Don't throw good money after bad

Its generally good advice that if you see an investment in a perpetual downward state that you don't keep pouring money, time, and manpower at it. Well, the same is very true in dating. So awhile back I mentioned that I kinda, sorta ,started "dating" (non exclusive dates) my guy friend from college. Seeing as I always had a crush on him, I thought the transition may have a few moments of awk, but overall would go ok. I was wrong. What has come to be over the past 4 months has been a blur of "friends just hanging out"/ faux dating (dinner, brunch, drinks, movies)/ sporting events.

There are def moments of cutesy on the verge of dating cues, aka hand holding, peck on check, 1 makeout (yes, Mother...). But then there is alot of "Cool dude. Talk to you later", um WHAT, you cant call me "DUDE". There is also so much inconsistency. Like one minute he is doing a full court press with texts and calls, then the next he may as well be in the witness protection program.

I think the problem is me. Big Red brought up a good point over unlimited mimosa brunch on Saturday (Delish!). She said she had two options with dating, you either go smoldering temptress (my words, not hers), or "cute"/ "Sweet"/ "Cutesy". And while my guy friends have seen me from many facets, Fantasy Football Dominator/ Angry g-chatter/ Dancing on Tables/ Burning my lungs and other people's ears with Karaoke, they haven't seen my attempts at "smoldering temptress", I just can't be cool flirty! And I don't think he will ever look at me like you would want the guy you are dating to look at you.

While I can't say this is a total stressor in my life right now, (I am not super invested), it also begs the question, WHY, I am doing this? Em says that the fact that College Boy wears pink pants, goes sailing,, is tall, lanky and from CT is not enough to keep hanging on (Really Em.?..he looks so cute in khakissssssss - our little children would have been a Ralph Lauren DREAM!). I think its time to call the WASP a loss, and move on.

PS - Boy in pic is a vineyard vines model, not said WASP. This boy could call me "Dude" all day long and it would be fine with me.