You are probably thinking, Elle, why the fox would i take dating advice from you? Well, good point, why would you? Well, because aside from my current dating disaster, a speciality of mine is dating. Relationships, I can't say I am an ace in that department, but dating, yes, I am.
Tip: Show off minor flaws to avoid having to reveal major ones.
Pretending to be perfect is hard, i mean, if it were easy, everyone would be doing it. In addition to being difficult, it also serves no purpose. No one wants to date a straight edge blah robot (...and if he does...RUN!). People get suspicious of perfect, like wholey moley, this person is a nut case just dying to break free. SO rather than pretending you are without flaws, throw a few minor idiosyncratic flaws out on the table. It will make you seem, endearing, cute, and "real", and most guys, aside from George Constanza, will love this. No one wants someone ACTUALLY flawed, just superficially flawed.
Some examples:
- Faux addictions (Coffee, Mad Men, jolly ranchers, Diet Coke, the gym) in lieu of ACTUAL addictions (i.e. prescription meds, stalking, etc)
- Being a stickler for punctuality (Bet his ex made him wait around endlessly...what a bitch she probably was)
- Cheeseball sayings in place of the F-bomb, my "Heavens to Betsy" is a hit. Boys think its adorable.
- Pretending to be klutzy. Note: this is different than being an actual klutz. Think Cameron Diaz.
- Failure to Navigate. Em's go-to move is throwing out a story about getting lost or being super disoriented. (She has a 90% post date text success rate people!)
- Faux Nerd-ism. Love of Jeopardy, Nat Geo, the History Channel, the WSJ, non-fiction, Crossword Puzzles (Sadly, I actually like these things, but boys always find it endearing).
In Em's words, "I attempt to humanize myself with things that really dont represent me", because after all, if thy don't actually know you, they they can never actually dislike the real you, but who'd dislike you anyway, right?
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